For Grades 1-5

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During the elementary school years, children are beginning to develop a clearer sense of who they are and starting to think about their future goals.

During grades 1-5, children are also starting to build stronger friendships and learning to work through challenges more independently. As they develop their problem-solving strategies, they’re learning how their choices can impact others, and beginning to understand how they can take actions to help their families, schools, or communities.

Parents and Caregivers, Your Turn!

First, think about a time when your child worked with a group or team to accomplish something – a soccer game, volunteer activity, or project at school. How did they demonstrate their strengths and show their self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationships skills, and responsible decision-making?

Next, help your child build on their own social and emotional strengths and consider how they can support others. Ask them:


What were you feeling and thinking during the activity?
Why did you enjoy/not enjoy that activity?
Did the way you were feeling change how you acted?


What was easy/hard (or boring/exciting) about that activity?
What did you do when things were too easy/hard?

Social awareness

Did you notice if anyone needed more help or if anyone was left out?
Why might that have been?
How did you help or make sure they were not left out?

Relationship skills

How did you help the group and was there anyone who helped you?
Was there anything the group disagreed on?
How did you work it out?


How did your team decide what to do?
How did you know that was a good decision? What happened next?

Now, work toward a leadership goal:

Ask your child for their ideas about how groups can work well together, and what they can do to bring those ideas to their group work. Identify another group activity together where they can apply these ideas.

See our SEL conversation guidance for other grade levels.